I seem to have messed things up with Surfer Guy, the questions going back and forth are: was this going to happen anyways? was is really all my fault? is he a jerk for not trying to understand me? am I not ready for a relationship? do I pick the wrong guys?
I'm so sad, I really liked him, the sex was like no other (i really do mean it, it was mind blowing) he was really hot, we had all this music and movies stuff incomin, but he kind of raised his voice to me today and, being that we have only known each other for a week and a day, that's not a good sign. When your starting to date someone it should be all hearts and flowers. But like I said I think I messed it up, it was all hearts and flowers until Sunday, when I opened my mouth and things just kind of came out without thinking, I freaked out, I needed answers, I didnt want to get caught up in a fuck buddy deal again and I needed to make sure that this is not it. My guy friend said, I'll move on in a week, there will be some other guy..........hugh, I wanted this guy!!! Everyone says I wont find a man because I'm looking, I DONT CARE IF THEY ARE RIGHT!!!!!! I'll be 26 in August, and that might be young to some......not that I think its an old age its just, its in your late 20's now and I feel I should be in a relationship, among other things. It would really help if I got a nice slap over the head right now of some tough love!! I want to know, am I ready?
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1. YOU DID NOT MESS THINGS UP. *SMACK* *SMACK* Dudeeeeee, if he got all weird because you were trying to figure out your status then he is a fucktard.
2. You won't want to hear this. There is no such thing as "ready". It just happens. You can't suddenly declare "Ok!!! Everything is perfect! Come on out boys!" lol It doesn't work like that. The whole point of a relationship is to help each other.
There is no ready, there is only compatibility and apparently you two aren't compatible. You will find someone else.
Also, you can't ask other people if you are "ready" because no matter what, it's in you. No one else can tell you if you are or aren't. Even you won't know. The only thing you DO know is what you you want and what you will settle for. Don't settle. Compromise, yes, settle, no.
Thanks for the tough love!!!!!
I can't say I know you well enough to make a judgment call like "are you ready". We can all only speak from our own experiences. I messed around with a bunch of dudes from clubs/bars when I was single. I knew what I needed at the time was one-night-stands. I had been in a relationship with a guy for about 6 years. We had started dating when I was 15/16. So needless to say, I needed to find out what dating was all about.
I also had to find out what made me happy. It wasn't until then that I found Ezra. The timing was right, we were both "ready". But more importantly, I was happy before I met him. I was at peace with myself, I had a job that I loved, and overall I felt like a thriving individual. And then I learned how to fake confidence.
If it turns out that you're "alone" for a while, just go buy a really nice vibrator. You seem like a truly good person. We all have our issues, but it's hard to find the right person to subscribe to them. (Wow that was totally cliche!) Anyway, I wish you luck. And don't worry, 26 is the new 16, so you're still super young :)
Thank You!!
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